Godless Woman: Lonely

Saturday, February 21, 2009

Lonely

Recently I have been getting really lonely. Between deconverting and moving away from where I grew up I have lost all my friends, except for my husband. I have tried to get more involved in online social networks but it isn't the same as having a someone that I can hang out with.

I am considering checking out a local UU church, but I don't think that I will be comfortable in that enviroment. I really like the fact that being an atheist means that you don't have to waste part of the weekend in church.

I have looked for atheist meet-up groups in this area and saw that there is one that meets in Livonia and another in Southfield, but most of the time their meetings conflict with my schedule so I haven't been able to get involved with them yet.

With all that said, if anyone is in the Ann Arbor area and would like to get together let me know. I need friends!

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Paul Fidalgo 35p · 852 weeks ago

I have found the UU thing to be double-edged. Very welcoming, loving environment, very life-affirming with all the right intentions. But their kind of hippy-dippy spiritualism is a little eye-roll inducing. Once we actually sang "The Rose," and I considered killing myself right there. A wonderful thing on the whole, but with its patches of silliness. Also, I don't like being made to sing stuff out of a book. I like to listen.

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Procrustes 57p · 852 weeks ago

I'll be your friend.

I'm in DC, but... all my other atheist friends live far away.

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Romana Challans · 852 weeks ago

Well, i have lots of online friends i chat to, and i have always worked hard at creating my offline tribe. Usually found that works through volunteer based groups that share my interests, and let it snowball.

The idea of limiting my friends to one group subset is also odd, i tend to let natural attrition shine through:)

Always happy to chat online when around, if that helps. Know it isnt the same, but one can never be too thin (ok, thats same major crap right there), or have too many friends (this also makes me wonder,what is meant by friends - acquaintances???). Look, scratch all that last bit, just happy to chat if you ever want:)

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Tina Marie · 852 weeks ago

I feel the same about UU churches. We went to an event for friends which was nice but still made me feel out of place. Although I am lucky and have found a place in Houston with atheist friends, most of my friends are though other outlets where religion is never discussed. My neighborhood ladies group and my tennis friends are a few examples. The worst place is family since they seem to be so judgmental. Yeah, go figure!

Anyway I enjoy a good online chat at anytime. Last night I talked to an atheist friend for about 15 minutes who lives in Florida and I'm on holiday in New Zealand. It was great! Feel free anytime...

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Goddless_Woman 43p · 852 weeks ago

Thanks everyone for your comments. I am open to chatting to anyone online, I love online friends and I am on quite a bit. My AIM screen name is godlesswoman and YIM is godlesswoman_86

Thanks to those of you who gave me feedback on UU churches, I still think that I may check it out just to satisfy my curiosity.

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Mojoey 107p · 852 weeks ago

UU baaaaad, meetup groups are better, bars are even better but don't help with atheism and loneliness. I'll be your penpal.

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Rose Schwartz 35p · 852 weeks ago

I agree, meet-ups are better. I have yet to attend the atheist meet-up I get emails about (they never meet at a place or time that is convenient). Yet, I've been to skeptics meet-ups and met some great friends. Also, if you happen to be near a CFI, I would suggest that, too. Many of the atheist & skeptic meet-ups meet at CFI, so it was natural progression. :) I understand how hard it is to make friends. I'm lucky I have a wonderful hubby, but its hard for us to meet like-minded freethinkers.

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Goddless_Woman 43p · 852 weeks ago

I wish that I was near a CFI, but the closest one is on the other side of the state and they always have the greatest events on Wednesday nights! I keep checking though because if they have one on the weekend that looks cool I am totally going :)

I am glad that you have a wonderful hubby I don't know what I would do without mine.

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Doubting Foo · 852 weeks ago

You also might try something like an astronomy club, bird watchers, photography club, etc. While they may not provide the debate a skeptics club would provide they would at least give you places to go and people to meet. Maybe contact the guys at Reasonable Doubts podcast, they are in Mich also and might give you some suggestions. http://doubtreligion.blogspot.com/

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Goddless_Woman 43p · 852 weeks ago

Thanks I did and found a science club that is actually in my city I am thinking about joining them. I will check out that link as well thanks for your help.

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igetpissed 38p · 852 weeks ago

Is there a skeptics group in he Detroit area (I assume that's where you live.) Skeptics are the best!

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Goddless_Woman 43p · 852 weeks ago

Yep there is one and I am a member of it and I check their events regularly but so far my schedule has clashed with their events or the distance has been a problem because I actually live about an hour from Detroit. I am closer to Ann Arbor than I am to Detroit.

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