Friday, February 18, 2011

Reactions

What reactions have you experienced when you tell someone you are an atheist? Are people shocked, angry, annoyed, or have you been lucky enough to have someone excited? Whatever reaction you have received I would love to hear your story.

I have experienced just about every reaction I listed. When I told my family they were shocked, angry and upset. I grew up going to a very conservative baptist church. So,I knew that my mom would be shocked and sad, but I was surprised, to some degree, when she got angry. Excluding weddings and funerals, my dad only went to church when my sister and I were singing and even then we had to beg him to come. So, when I found out he was upset and even a bit angry with me I was flabbergasted. Looking back now I think he got angry because my mom and sister were so upset that they were making the house miserable for him. Also, he may have thought that I was going to become a criminal and that I was no longer going to visit them. With time, my family realized that my decision to become an atheist wasn't something that I was going to change just because they didn't like it and that this decision didn't make me a horrible person. Currently our relationship has returned to normal other than the fact that we don't discuss religion.

In stark comparison to the reaction I got from my parents a few of my friends actually laughed and congratulated me. There were a few friends that I felt the need to apologize to, because when I was a Christian teenager I had witnessed and invited them to church so many time that I am not sure why they were still my friends. They were gracious enough to forgive me and I am really glad that they never did become Christians.

Again, I would really like to hear your stories. If you haven't told anyone you are an atheist, but would like to leave a comment, share how you think those closest to you would react if you did tell them.

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My favorite public reaction came after I wrote an editorial for my local paper, rebuffing the comments of a pastor concerning scientific, thus human reach. It wasn't a big deal; it was only intended to state that everyone in the community didn't share his delusions, more-or-less.

Soon after, during parent-teacher conferences, my son's kindergarten teacher asked my wife if she read about an editorial about science made against the weekly posting of a town pastor. After my wife acknowledged our household as the source, the teacher gratefully proclaimed her support for the editorial.

It was great to have non-family support for our views and more importantly, it was even greater to know we had such a reasonable person introducing our son to the education system.
Thanks for the comments. I hope your son has more teachers like this one, especially in science classes.
When I broke the news to my Baptist parents, I just told them I had been experiencing doubt for over a year. My doubt had already blossomed into a liberating disbelief, but I didn't want to freak them out completely. I'll probably gradually let them know more and more of what I now believe, or don't believe. My Dad's a music pastor actually. I have to be really careful how I treat their faith so that I don't belittle his livelihood and the stories they've devoted their lives to.
My recent post The Bible - Signature of a Supreme Being- Or Man
I get a kick out of just plain being my nice and friendly self as I go from day to day and then subtly springing on people the reality of my atheism by sharing the book I just wrote. (It's actually just a re-packaging of a couple of years of blog posts, short essays) and watching their reactions. "You're an atheist?" The look on their faces says, "But you're so nice. How can you be an atheist?" It's quite amusing.
My recent post Well- What Do You Believe In

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